All guys who are over 18 years of age may attend our meetings. We get all ages and types of guys at our meetings. We require that you bring a photo ID in order to prove that you are over 18.
No. You do not need to be a member of the club. Guests are welcome to attend.
The crowd is different each week. We get visitors from all over the country and the world, curious guys from the tri-state area, and our regular group of guys. We get like minded guys who are looking for a unique experience in a safe place. We have been around for over 25 years and 12 years at Paddles and it has been working well for us, so I don't think the crowd will disappoint you.
There is no dress code You can wear as much or as little as you want. We welcome guys whowear leather, rubber, or fetish gear, or you can wear nothing at all. Jeans and a tshirt is ok too. We leave it up to you as to what you want to wear.
I once read on another site that "There is a subtle art of knowing when someone is interested in playing with you." This is very true. The best way to initiate contact is by using body language and eye contact. Ease up to someone, let them know you're interested. You can start a chat, or maybe a little tweak of their nipple, and wait for their response. You'll know if they are interested. Most guys dont like a guy sneaking up on them and just grabbing their crotch, so don't do it. If the action is mutually agreeable, have fun. If not, a simple "No thanks" should do the job. If you are the one that has approached someone, just walk away. Most guys are considerate and will know when to leave you alone, but if they approach again, just push their hand away, gently but firmly,and that should do the trick. Remember, no one will will force you to do anything you don't want to do .
Here we remind you what was just said above, Be respectful of others. There will be many different scenes going on during the meeting. There will be some guys who like a lot of group participation, there will be some guys who prefer one-on-one only. If you find yourself wanting to join in on a scene, you should check with the top first. He is in control of the scene and presumably will have discussed the scene with the bottom, and will be the one who either allows, or doesnt allow more guys into the scene. Some scenes are very erotic, and there will be many guys watching. Please give the guys some space. Watch, enjoy, participate, just use a little common sense so that everyone will have a great time.
It is always a matter of personal choice as to whether to get involved in any scene, and no one is forced to participate. The club is a safer way to meet guys who are into this lifestyle. It is a semi-priavte/public space and most guys feel safer meeting someone the first time this way, rather than getting involved in a scene in a private place. We do have monitors who walk around, as well as having guys who "self police" the activities. These guys have much experience and help keep the action safe and fun for all .
You may be a little nervous, and maybe anxious when you first get to the club. But remember, everyone had a first time. Relax and let yourself enjoy the night. Take a walk around the space, check out some of the action going on, and maybe just watch for a little while. You'll see some great scenes that will excite you, and you'll see some that don't do anything for you. If you see something you like, go over, make appropriate eye contact and see what develops. Part of the allure of the club is being in a community of like minded guys and being able to freely express yourself. Most guys who come to the meeting and want to play are usually able to find other guys who are into playing too. Reality is that we have a mix of all kinds of people at the club. If you keep an open mind, you should have a good time. You should also know that if you have any concerns at any time, you can always check with the monitors, or the guys at coat check. They will be happy to assist you. We hope you have a great time, that the most difficult part of the evening was just walking into the club, and that you will be back soon for your next great time.
We encourage discussion prior to getting involved in a scene. You should discuss your limits, preferences, and choose safe words. It is important that all activity remains safe, sane, and consensual. A safe word is a word that lets the top know that the bottom is not having fun anymore. There can be two words, one for "slow down" and one for "stop now". If the bottom is gagged, an appopriate non verbal signal should be chosen.
No drugs are allowed in the space at any time. We strongly enforce the drug policy and you will be forced to leave if you violate this policy. No Alcohol is allowed in the space. No Alcohol, Liquor, Beer or Wine is allowed at the club.
We respect your privacy. All info that you provide us with will remain confidential. We never release or give anyone your contact info or email. Most of our info is sent by email, but occasionally we send regular mail. If you dont want postal mail, don't fill in your address and check the box that says you dont want to receive any postal mail from us.